There have been rising cases of immorality among the Generation Z, most of these cases have been attributed by negligence of the parent and peer pressure. Parents have found it hard to communicate with their adolescent kids and the young adults have issues opening up to their parents.
JW explains one factor that can be a roadblock to communication is an adolescent’s quest for independence. There is no getting around it—your child is growing up, and part of that process involves separating from family. No, this does not mean that your adolescent is ready to leave home. In many ways he or she needs you more than ever. But the process of separation begins years before adulthood. As part of maturing, many adolescents prefer to think things out privately before revealing their thoughts to others.
Below are some of the tips from Childmind to help you co-op with your adolescent child and also improve the relationship between him/her.
1. Listen. If you are curious about what’s going on in your teen’s life, asking direct questions might not be as effective as simply sitting back and listening. Kids are more likely to be open with their parents if they don’t feel pressured to share information.
2. Validate their feelings. show kids that you understand and empathize by reflecting the comment back
3. Show trust. Teens want to be taken seriously, especially by their parents. Look for ways to show that you trust your teen. Asking him for a favor shows that you rely on him.
4. Don’t be a dictator. You still get to set the rules, but be ready to explain them. Also be willing to compromise some of the rules that your teenage may find overwhelming.
5. Give praise. Parents tend to praise children more when they are younger, but adolescents need the self-esteem boost just as much.
6. Control your emotions. While in an argument with him/her, remember that you’re the adult and he is less able to control his emotions or think logically when he’s upset.
7. Do things together. Talking isn’t the only way to communicate, and during these years it’s great if you can spend time doing things you both enjoy, whether it’s cooking or hiking or going to the movies, without talking about anything personal.